To maintain harmonious relationship is not an easy thing. Once or twice, there are problems that can make you and your spouse love relationship faltered.
Problems can be tapered love, if you exacerbate with an attitude that is not appropriate. Excerpted from She Knows, the following three behaviors that make the problem your love and your partner are getting worse.
1. When Angry Then choose Silence
In this case, the adage 'Silence is Golden' obviously does not apply. When angry or upset with your loved one, silence is not the solution. Silent during an argument, will only compound the problem.
Do not expect he would apologize; instead he will be more upset. Try to express what's on your mind so quickly resolved the problem.
But when you include the type who tends to prefer silence to defuse emotions, it's good to tell him. Tell me if you need some time alone first, before discussing the issue. Do not ignore it.
2. 'Play Guess riddles'
No one knows, what happens in your mind than your own. So do not expect lovers will know what you want, when you do not say it.
If there is anything you want from your partner, and then say it to him. Do not just upset because it guesses wrong, or he's doing away from your desires. Express what you feel, rather than waste time waiting for him to be able to read your mind.
If you are not among those who can say something with the frontal, start from small things. For example, which restaurant would you go with a partner or what movie to watch. If you've used, you will be able to express things that are more important and significant in the relationship.
3. Saving Revenge
Everyone must have made mistakes, including your loved one. Do not hold a grudge when you caught him cheating or lying. Complete openly. If you are still upset and angry, express. Do not say you forgive mistakes, but inside, still harbored anger so deep.
This will hurt you, other people also. Revenge will only exacerbate the problem. Forget your grudges in three ways:
- Try to calm down, explain if you still have not received the error. If he can not understand, describe exactly how you feel.
- Give him time to speak. Let him explain the problem from his perspective. Perhaps there has been a misunderstanding, and gives you another perspective.
- Try to confide in a friend or someone close. Tell me what are the things that bother you, that make you frustrated before talking with a partner.
- You can vent his anger with the sport, kickboxing workout or to walk alone for a while. Then express your feelings to your partner.
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